10 Steps to Self-Belief and Self-Confidence
If you need to succeed in life, you need to have self-belief. Don’t wait for the world to understand your objectives and support you in your mission. The universe may conspire to make you successful, but if you don’t think you can, you can never accomplish your mission.
Set yourself reasonable targets that you know is well within your potential. Keep achieving them stage by stage to boost your self-belief. Once you have made your mind and possessed loads of self-confidence, none of the world’s negative forces can break your thoughts.
Here are 10 steps to develop and maintain a strong sense of self-belief in yourself, so that you achieve success in all your endeavors. Most of these steps may sound simple, but not many people practice them in their real lives. Try these to see a marked difference in your lives.
1. Challenge The Negativity
When you start to do something, you will always notice a slight feeling of negativity inside your head, won’t you?
These are some of the common questions that you should watch out for:
- Am I cut out for this task?
- What if I fail?
- Will the world laugh at me?
- Am I pushing myself too hard?
Most of these questions stem from what others think about you. If your family or friends doubt your beliefs, it impacts your self-belief and creates slight negativity in you.
All you need to do is to challenge that feeling and come out successful. Yes, you may have doubts before you set out to do something, but you should learn to ignore those doubts and keep pushing yourself harder and harder towards the goal because you believe you can do it.
If you believe that you can achieve something, you cannot be stopped by any powerful source.
2. Work On Your Weak Areas And Improve On Them
Once, there lived a small boy who believed he could do wonders in his chosen field of sport. However, he found out that he couldn’t perfect his jumps and throws properly. He knew his weakness and worked day and night on it. His coach told him that he could never perfect his jumps.
However, the boy didn’t give up. He kept working hard for hours and days together till he not only perfected his moves but also mastered them. He went on to become a legend in his field. This is the story of the basketball legend, Michael Jordan.
The world witnessed a champion because he never gave up; instead, he worked so hard that his weakness became his strength!
3. Fight For Your Beliefs
If you don’t fight for your beliefs and stand for them, who will?
When you find that there is something wrong in the way things are being operated around you, don’t go with the crowd. You need to speak out your mind and tell them the correct method, even if you run the risk of rubbing against somebody powerful.
Never let power, money or position intimidate you. Is the road that everyone uses around you leading them to the wrong way? Be strong enough to take the road less traveled. More often than not, this will result in a huge difference in your lives.
When you start opposing a wrong system, you will find many more voices joining you. It’s all about leading from the front!
4. Clarity Of Thoughts
Do you want to lose 10 kg in 3 months? If that’s your goal, you will hear many voices trying you to bog you down by telling you that it is impossible to reach that mark in such a short time.
It is quite easy to get demotivated by all the negativity around you. This is why you need to win this battle even before it is fought.
Have a clear idea of the step-wise goal that you have to achieve each before you proceed to achieve the final target.
Once you are clear in your head about the way you want to achieve the goals, there is no stopping you!
The sense of satisfaction that these small wins give you, prove to be a huge boost to your self-confidence!
5. Make A List Of Charismatic Feelings That You Want To Develop
We all watch movies, don’t we? We worship the heroes who are created to save the world from all sorts of evils. We eagerly wait for the hero’s entry on the big screen. Why do we all love heroes?
It is because they possess certain charismatic feelings. Some of the qualities that ooze self-belief are body language, boldness in voice, confident attitude, sense of humor, intelligence, humility, and more. Write down the feelings that you like on a piece of paper and pick those feelings that suit your character. Practice them well to give your self-esteem a phenomenal boost.
For example, if you think you have a wonderful sense of humor, work on your body language accordingly and practice a few self-written comedy sets in front of the mirror. Perfect the art of speaking with confidence. You could even apply for part-time stand-up comedy jobs if you are good at it.
If you believe in yourself, you may become a famous comedian in your country in no time!
Write down the feelings that you like on a piece of paper and pick those feelings that suit your character and practice!
6. Motivate Yourself
When you hit a stumbling block in your path to success or when you feel bogged down by the challenges or when you are affected by the negativity around you, all you need to do is to motivate yourself. Become your own coach and unleash the power within you.
Look into the mirror and tell yourself why you shouldn’t give up and why you need to back yourself. Talk to yourself as if you are advising a hurt person and explain to the person in the mirror why it is important to try without giving a care to the final results. You will need to give it all that you can so that you run the race fully without pulling away mid-way.
Having such short pep-talks with yourself at regular intervals will keep you motivated and energized to meet your goals!
7. Don’t Be Too Hard On Yourself
Many people make the mistake of shutting themselves out from the external world when they are working towards a particular objective. (Source)
While they claim that it improves their concentration, what it usually does is to create more pressure on them. Let’s take the example of an objective that we mentioned in one of the previous paragraphs – losing 10 kg in 3 months. Don’t be a stickler for perfection when you are on this goal.
When you believe you can achieve this goal, you should also allow yourself one or two cheat meals in this time frame. Being happy is very important for self-belief. The world wouldn’t come crashing down if you enjoy a pizza on a lazy Sunday with your family in this 3-month period, would it?
The great Usain Bolt once said that he never took any pressure on himself before a race and he always enjoyed by listening to his favorite music.
When you relax, your body and mind get enough time to recoup and perform well when it matters!
8. Keep Learning
Forgive us for taking Usain Bolt’s example again, but the one thing that the world loves about that champ is his attitude. After announcing his retirement from the track & field sport that he dominated, Bolt could have opted to enjoy his life in his beautiful homeland of Jamaica.
He didn’t! Instead, he got to work almost immediately. He enrolled himself in a soccer training academy in Australia and is honing his skills there to become a professional footballer.
The man doesn’t want to live the rest of his life on his past laurels and glory –which is an inspirational attitude, indeed! Through his moves, he has a message for all of us – Forget Bolt the racer, here comes Bolt, the footballer! If that’s not called self-confidence what is? It’s his constant learning and training that has made him the self-confident man that he is today.
The true identity of a warrior is that he never stops to learn!
9. Your Company Matters
You cannot change the people around you, but you can decide what type of people you want to be around with. Are the people who you are working with have to be constantly reminded of their responsibilities? Do they doubt their potential? Do they lack motivation?
If you answer “yes” to at least one of these questions, it is time for you to move away from this group. When there is too much of negativity and pessimism around you, it is very difficult to have a self-confident approach.
Work with people who are creative and look for new ways to automate existing systems to bring more profitability to the organization.
Work with people who are always willing to run the extra mile because they believe in themselves. Move with people who work single-minded toward the company’s vision, without focusing on any of the negative vibes that they get from others.
Such people help you improve your belief in yourself. When you work in such a mutually-inspirational group, it not only helps you stay motivated always but also goes a long way in improving your overall personality development as well.
Work with people who are always willing to run the extra mile because they believe in themselves!
10. Failures Aren’t Real Failures
Failure is not man’s biggest mistake; not trying is. When you try something with a full belief in yourself, you have never failed, regardless of the outcome. We must all have learned in our schools that failures are the stepping stones to success. This is a very true and valid statement, indeed. Failures are never real failures in our lives; they are known by names such as experiences and opportunities.
Success shouldn’t go to your head, and failure shouldn’t go to your heart – this is the rule by which you need to live. If you succeed, be thankful for the opportunities that you have been provided to achieve the same. If you don’t, you need to work on your strategies once more and come back stronger and better prepared.
As the great Henry Ford said, “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently”!
Two brothers looked up in the sky and saw a few birds flying. They believed that they could create something to make humans fly. That led to the invention of the airplane. If the Wright Brothers (Wilbur and Orville) hadn’t believed in their potential, the world wouldn’t have seen an airplane for many, many years. (Source)
She was sexually abused by her relatives as a small girl. She became a mother when she was just 14. Her baby passed away within 2 days of birth. She faced severe racist remarks and body-shaming incidents while she was in high school. However, none of it stopped her from studying hard and earning a full scholarship to college.
She started her career as a television anchor and went on to own her own network and become the uncrowned queen of world television and highest-paid woman TV celebrity ever! Yes, we are talking about the talk-show expert, Oprah Winfrey. She is what she is today, purely because of her self-belief. Need we say more? (Source)
Believing in yourself is one of the best gifts that you have. You should make use of this gift responsibly and use it to give wings to your dreams. If you believe in your dreams, nobody else has the power to snatch them away from you.
Today, we are all enjoying the benefits of many legends who had an unshakable belief in themselves.
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