What It Means to Be a Truly Genuine Person
Leading a genuine life allows you to be the best version of yourself possible. If you are ready to let the real you shine through, then this guide is ready to help you learn to live authentically and become the most genuine you that you can be.
Even with all the self-knowledge, you can have, it is still possible that you do not act accordingly. You can become distracted by your wishes for how you WANT to be versus who you are. You can feel a conflict between your values and those of society. And, guess what? You also change over time, so you must get to know yourself often, especially when you are starting to feel conflict inside.
So, while self-knowledge is the first step, learning to live by what you know about yourself is the second part. It requires setting the right goals for yourself, then regularly reflecting on your life to ensure that these goals are still in line with who you genuinely are, deep down. Here are some other essential rules you must learn if you want to be true to yourself and live your life genuinely.
Decide You Want to be Happy and Authentic
The first rule of living the most genuine version of your life possible is to decide that you want to be happy being yourself. Keeping your heart and mind open to the opportunities that will make you happy is essential. When you make the conscious choice to choose happiness and genuine living, you are more likely to accept these experiences when they come as well as stick to your guns when you feel the pressure of others’ values creeping in on your life.
Becoming committed to authenticity means that you will make choices based on your self-knowledge. You must actively choose to be yourself consistently, which requires a persistent evaluation of what you are doing in your life. These things can be hard to sustain, which is why you have to make a choice and remain committed if you want the most genuine life possible for yourself.
You Don’t Need Approval
It does not matter if other people approve of or respect your choices. The only person you need to worry about disappointing is yourself. When you stop seeking approval or validation for your life from other people, you can finally make decisions based on the one person that really matters- you.
When you gain self-knowledge, it can be a little scary, because you must look deep inside yourself and face some of the uncomfortable truths about yourself. But, getting comfortable with even those darkest parts of yourself is the only way to learn to accept and love yourself.
Seeking approval from others will only leave you feeling unfulfilled and alone. You will not become happy because of the right partner, the right job, a bigger paycheck, or a new house. Even if you get all those things, you will still be the same person you always have been on the inside. Learning to live with and love yourself is the only true path to happiness.
Your Failures Should Teach You Lessons
We all have setbacks in our lives. But more important than the mistakes you make in life are the lessons you take away from those experiences. If you want to be more genuine in how you live your life, then you must learn from your mistakes and failures and use those lessons to continue to make your life exactly what you want it to be.
Failures are learning opportunities. They teach us where we were led astray from our true selves or where we lacked self-knowledge in critical areas of our lives. Learn from the lessons life teaches you, and you will see how your life is genuinely yours.
Becoming Genuinely Yourself
Learning more about yourself and then actively expressing who you are and what you want in life is the path toward becoming more genuine with yourself and well as others. If you are ready to let your real self shine through, then you will need to focus on two types of work.
The first is increasing your self-knowledge, and the second is allowing that knowledge to guide you in your life. Below, we have highlighted a wide range of strategies that help you to carry out both of these goals.
Dig Deep into Your Personality
Getting to know yourself means understanding your personality. When you see yourself engaging in certain behaviors, ask, “Why did I do that?”
Look carefully at the motivations behind your actions.
Look carefully at the aspects of your personality that tell you how open you are, whether or not you are conscientious, if you are introverted or extroverted, how agreeable you are, and how anxious you tend to be. These are core aspects of personality that can tell you a lot about yourself. There are hundreds of online personality tests available, and keeping a daily journal is an excellent way to get to know yourself better, too.
Trust Your Instincts
Your gut is connected to your inner values and motivations, which is why it rarely leads you astray.
When you need to make big decisions in your life, learn to listen to that instinct and to trust what your gut is telling you.
Learning to listen to this inner voice is important for learning to get to know and trust yourself as well as for leading a genuine life.
Identify Your Core Values
The morals and principles that guide your life are extremely important to living as your genuine self. Getting to know what is important to you is a crucial step in learning to listen with authenticity. First, make a list of all the values you believe to be important in your life. After you have this large list, create a second that includes just the top eight most important.
These are likely the ones guiding your daily decisions. Finally, narrow that list down further into your top three.
These are the values that guide your long-term goals and dreams. Now, what does this tell you about yourself? In what areas of your life are you living according to these values? And in what areas do you see some room for realignment?
Admit your Truth
If you can’t be honest with yourself, you can’t be honest and genuine with anyone else in your life. Speaking aloud or writing down your true feelings, expressing your true purpose or wishes in life is essential for learning to become more genuine. If you can’t say these things to others quite yet, you should at least be able to say them to yourself.
Admit to yourself your darkest fears, your wildest dreams, your true inner grief. Unburden yourself of the shame, hate, or negative feelings that are holding you back from living the life you have always wanted. It takes a lot of soul searching, but this activity can release you from years of being someone you are not, freeing you to live the life you have always wanted to live.
Love and Care for Your Body
If there is one part of ourselves that it is most often difficult to love unconditionally, it is our physical form. Accepting ourselves for who we are means learning to appreciate our bodies as well as our hearts.
Learn to listen to and care for your body!
Give it the love and respect it needs, and it will reward you with strength and true health. Do not close the door on possibilities until you have really embraced your body and learned to challenge and love it unconditionally.
Confront Your Fears
Most of the time, when we are choosing not to be genuine with ourselves or others, it comes from fear. It comes from being afraid of rejection or loneliness, of ridicule or failure.
When you are having trouble being genuine about something in your life, it is time to ask yourself, “What exactly am I afraid of?”
Naming your fears can help you confront and control them, allowing you to become the master of your anxiety and finally overcome the fears that have been holding you back.
Get in Touch with Your Dreams
The hopes and dreams you hold in your heart are your pathways to fulfillment and happiness. When you know what you are striving toward and wish to achieve in this world, you can live a life that makes you proud, and you become the most genuine version of yourself.
Knowing what it is that you dream about, then actively pursuing those outcomes, is what you most deserve in this world. Do not just settle for vague dreams of “someday” and “wouldn’t it be nice if…” Dig into it and figure out what will really make you happy. How do you envision your future self? What makes this dream worth pursuing?
Then, make the pursuit of this dream something you work on every day. Actually chase your dreams and take this action seriously. When you learn to be proud of and work toward your dreams, you will be genuine in what you do.
Engage in Your Passions
Find something you genuinely love and do it with all your heart.
Whether you enjoy scuba diving, reading, doing yoga, making art, singing, or running, find something that lights you up and do it unabashedly.
Having interests is great for your health, helps you control your stress, provides you with a creative or energetic outlet for your life, and allows you to use parts of your body and brain that do not get much attention in the day-to-day. Interests and hobbies keep you motivated and provide you with fun ways to express yourself and explore who you are.
Get in Touch with Your Inner Child
Many times, we have interests, hobbies, and dreams as a child that we lose touch with as we age. Sometimes, it is helpful as an adult to reconnect with these parts of our youth to see how they make us feel today.
Perhaps you will discover a long-buried passion or interest that could fuel a new dream. Or maybe you will find a creative hobby to help you explore new parts of yourself.
Express Your Feelings
If you want to be your authentic self, you must not be afraid to share with others how you really feel. When you learn to express your emotions in healthy and productive ways, it tells others more about who you are, and it allows you to live as yourself without hiding behind false feelings.
Learning to tell others how you feel in ways that will enable them to hear you is a healthy, effective strategy for learning to express your genuine self to others.
When you try to be yourself to others, it can feel very vulnerable, particularly when you are first beginning to embrace authenticity. Have courage knowing that you are becoming more genuine in order for others to better know and understand you and because it is what you deserve in life.
Learning to be yourself takes practice, and the more you do it, the easier it becomes. Learning to be bold and proud of yourself will come over time when you take steps every day to stop hiding your genuine self and instead reveal the true you to the world.
If you want to have more courage for yourself, help others to be more genuine in their lives, as well.
Become more curious about your friends and loved ones. Ask them questions to encourage them to share parts of themselves with you.
Be supportive of their emotions and of when they share their genuine nature with you. When you see others behaving authentically, it will give you more confidence to act in this way, too.
What Are the Best Ways to Lead a Genuine Life?
Becoming genuine is not just something you do in one part of your life. It seeps into every aspect of your being, encompasses all your choices, actions, and words. It allows you to reach for your most treasured goals and aspirations, and it means you are living life on your terms, no matter how big or small the deed. In short, it is living to be the best version of yourself you can possibly be.
Pursuing the goals that are right for you is the most important thing that you can do to become your true self. When you try to do things that do not reflect who you really are or what you honestly care about, you will not be happy or fulfilled, even if you reach those goals. It is only when your accomplishments match your true needs that you feel completely whole.
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