Even the most confident among us deals with fear at some point in his or her life. Fears are a natural part of our psyche, signaling that we are uneasy in our present situation. Understanding where fear comes from and how to deal effectively with them. You can keep them from blocking your motivation or impacting your success and happiness in life.(Source)
Learning to overcome your fears is an essential life skill. Conquering anxiety, pushing past hesitation, and creating your own path toward success can help you achieve your dreams. All that despite the fears that may be lurking in your mind.(Source)
Why Should I Deal with My Fears?
Dealing with fear is not the same as having no fear. You will never successfully eliminate fear from your life. But you can learn to cope with your angst and even use it to your advantage when necessary.
Fear, after all, is a biological mechanism, designed to alert us to impending danger. Our modern lives lack much of the physical threat that our prehistoric ancestors faced.
Our apprehensions today have evolved to encompass so much more than bodily harm or scarcity of resources.
Looking past the physical fears and those that are related to psychological phobias, there are numerous commonalities among what makes people afraid. These that can affect your motivation, the ability to achieve your goals, and your overall happiness.
We’ll examine these different types of worries to understand from where they originate. Knowing the source of your fear is the first step toward dealing with it effectively. Then, we’ll share ways to cope with them successfully, so they stop interfering with your ability to stay motivated and excited about achieving your goals.
Why Is It Essential That You Learn to Manage Your Fears?
For one, it influences your emotions. When you are afraid, this also impacts the decisions you make. Allowing anxiety to control your life can affect your overall outlook. Fears amplifying your perceptions of risks and keeping you from experiencing life to its fullest. Finally, living in fear is actually not good for your physical health, either.
Fear can have a significant impact on your motivation to continue past setbacks and obstacles to achieve your dreams. Anxiety can keep you from pursuing new goals or taking risks. Fears can keep you from taking a chance that could have high rewards for you.
Learning to control and minimize the impact your fear has on your life will allow you to achieve your goals, stay focused, and continue to be excited about what lies ahead.
How to Conquer Your Fears?
#1. Most of Your Fears Are Not Really “Protecting” You
If you have a fear of something that is not going to harm you physically, you need to learn to control that dread. These sources of anxiety are not protecting you from harm and, instead, they may actually be causing more damage to your overall happiness. Reducing emotionally-based fears is essential for unlocking your potential and helping you achieve all you want in life.
#2. When You Are Afraid, More Fears Will Grow
The longer you tolerate irrational concerns that serve no physical purpose, the more likely you are to become fearful of other things. Staying afraid reduces your ability to see your anxieties as irrational and to make choices to deal with these emotions, as your fears become more concrete and embedded into your psyche.
Releasing your fears can allow you to see things more clearly, to have a more positive outlook about your future, and to better identify the sources of possible new fears when they start to creep in. In short, they make you better able to ward off new anxieties and help you attain your goals.
So, what are the types of fears most commonly affecting motivation? Below, we outline each of these, including a few you may recognize within yourself or others. For each, we’ve included some possible sources for these fears, but fears can sometimes have deep-seeded roots.
You may want to talk with a mental health professional if you are concerned about the initial source of your worries, especially if they are having a profound impact on your motivation.
The Fears that Interfere with Motivation
While fear is an emotion, it most certainly is not a single feeling, and not all concerns are created equally. Many different types of anxieties can influence your motivation and ability to accomplish your goals. Fears have a considerable influence on your sense of efficacy and perseverance, changing how well you bounce back from adversity and setbacks. Knowing the root of your concerns can help you deal with them more effectively.
Fear of Failure Psychology
This is perhaps one of the strongest and most pervasive fears among us. Fear of failure can influence most of our actions and decisions, especially when it comes to personal or professional goals. Your definition of failure is particular to you. What you deem to be something that has failed may seem very different from others. The fear of failure is really about how you will feel disappointed afterward. You tried your best, but things didn’t work out as you had hoped. This can leave you feeling like, “Why should I bother trying again?”
Instead of looking at failure as something bad, though, another perspective is to consider failure as an opportunity to try again, this time with more information. You should learn a great deal from every experience and trial, and if you apply what you learned the next time, your chances of succeeding are even higher. Failure does not have to be a negative experience if you have the right attitude about what it can teach you.(Source)
Conquer Your Fears of Success
This fear could be the considered the opposite of the fear of failure. It is sometimes referred to as “impostor syndrome.” This emotion stems from an anxiety that others will see your success and capabilities but that you will not be “worthy” of these accolades. You doubt that you are good enough for the success you are achieving and that sometime in the future, others will realize this, too. You don’t believe you have the abilities others’ think you have.
An important thing to remember is that nearly everyone feels this way, at some point or another. No matter how old you are, you probably still consider yourself learning to be an adult or not quite having it together like others in your age range should. The truth is, we’re all figuring it out as we go, none of us are perfect, and we all deserve the achievements of our hard work and determination.(Source)
Overcoming Fear of Inadequacy
Being afraid that you aren’t “enough” is another common fear. You may fear you aren’t:
- talented enough for that promotion,
- pretty enough for that new mate,
- smart enough to try a new business venture,
- financially stable enough to achieve your goals.
These feelings of inadequacy often stem from a fear of rejection, by others or “the establishment,” so these two are often intertwined with each other.
Your fear of inadequacy is really about the expectations and standards you set for your own life. You are probably the harshest critic you will ever face. You expect far more from yourself than most people will ever expect of you. Recognizing your own role in this defeatist attitude is the first step toward conquering this fear.(Source)
Conquer Your Fears of Change in Life
Many people fear change. The future is all unknown to us, so controlling what you can and keeping as many variables constant seems like a good strategy for minimizing life’s surprises and disappointments. That is until you realize that, even the most carefully crafted life that remains constant is subject to disappoint, setbacks, and obstacles.
When you spend a good deal of time worrying about change, you are not even able to enjoy the unique experiences that come with new opportunities and circumstances. You will then be even more unprepared for what lies ahead. Learning to live life in the now is an important life skill. It teaches you to appreciate that all experiences in life have something to teach you.(Source)
Fear of the Unknown Theory
Fear of the unknown is closely related to a fear of losing control. This fear starts with the premise that you should not move forward unless you know what lies ahead. Knowing what’s going to happen means you can control your reaction to the situation, but the unknown leaves you with a lack of control.
Fear of the unknown is an evolutionary survival tool that allowed our ancestors to survive and thrive. And while fear of the unknown may rightfully keep you from wandering into physically dangerous situations, it does not need to prevent you from trying new things and taking risks to achieve your dreams.
In fact, taking chances on new things can help you:
- develop even more skills
- plan more effectively for the future
- provide you with new insights
- help you be even more successful.(Source)
Fear of Rejection: Consequences and Behaviors
Fearing rejection isn’t just about the rejection itself. It is about the consequences of that rejection. If you are rejected in your professional life, what does that say about your knowledge and expertise?
If you are rejected in your personal life, does that mean you’ll never find love and be happy? The experience of being rejected often triggers a landslide of other fears– inadequacy, failure, change, judgment, pain– that can be difficult to manage.
The key to dealing with rejection is to realize that, like failure, it is merely a chance to learn and grow. Rejection doesn’t have to be personal; it can instead be a data point to help you improve in the future. Rejection cultivates your resilience to setbacks, and it takes courage and fortitude to be aware that rejection is making you a stronger person.(Source)
How to Let Go of Fear of Judgement?
The fear of being unwanted, not liked, or unworthy is often extremely difficult to overcome. Throughout life, we accept judgment from as well as judge others on various sets of social norms. When we are judged negatively, this has a direct and powerfully impact on our self-esteem.
- accepting less for yourself,
- keeping your opinions or views silent,
- avoiding activities for fear of ridicule,
- hiding aspects of your life from friends, co-workers, or family members.
Most of us strive not to care what others think, but this goal is easier said than done for many of us. But it turns out you don’t need to be exceptionally courageous to stop fearing judgment. Instead, you need to accept that the world does not need to approve of you.
You can start by suspending judgment upon others. Suspending judgment means:
- you are instead curious about them,
- ask questions to understand them better,
- leaving you less likely to feel that others are always judging you.(Source)
Conquer Your Fears of Missing Out [How to Deal with FOMO?]
The fear of missing out [FOMO] has become a modern-day phenomenon that can be closely tied to the advent of social media. It is about how we judge our own lives in comparison to what we perceive others are doing. It leads to questions like:
- “Am I doing everything I should or could be?”
- “Why does he/she have X, but I don’t?”
Fear of missing out is all about comparing yourself to others, their accomplishments or lifestyles. It is a distracting habit that can leave you feeling less than them. In reality, you have everything you need in life.
An alternative to this mindset is to focus on mindfulness and gratitude. Be aware of what is positive in your life and what makes you happy in the moment. Another good strategy is to eliminate or lessen your use of social media platforms. Places like Facebook provide fuel for false assumptions about how much “better” other people are than you.(Source)
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