How to Achieve Emotional Wholeness Using Practical Steps
It’s easy to see how the need for physical and material possessions can ruin a person’s life. It doesn’t take much mental processing power to figure out how desiring more, more and more can put you in some sort of existential or emotional hole. You have to fit the right thing, you have to mix and match correctly.
Are You Letting Your Possessions Ruin Your Life?
Unfortunately, we live in a society where we have collapsed our hierarchy of values into the material things. That’s just a fancy way of saying that our possessions possess us. People think that being rich means living better. They have the capacity to make things happen. They have the ability, they seem to be more competent.
It’s not uncommon for people to think that since this stuff is so expensive then this means that this person is more valuable. It brings more value to their lives. This possession is a gateway of meaning to their lives. They just need to put together enough green pieces of paper and they too could have that value and meaning.
In other words, the possession has possessed the owner because everybody seems to buy into this symbology. Just because you’re competent doesn’t mean you’re a moral or upright person. We live in a world where virtue is collapsed with material wealth, or the ability to get material wealth.
You might be doing this right here, right now. Stop yourself in your train of thought. Do you think that just because you don’t drive a BMW, you’re less of a person? Do you think if you drive around a beat up Toyota that’s 20 years old, your life is of lower value?
Welcome to the world of reputation. Just as people make instant judgments regarding each other’s level of competence and worth based on the outward symbols they have-their possessions-people also size each other up by their reputation. In fact, people are often lazy when it comes to figuring people out for themselves. They are too ready to rely on what other people have said about the person they are trying to size up. (Source)
When you rely on someone else’s reputation to come up with your impression of that person, you are lazy. Sadly, most people are lazy on an intellectual level. They don’t want to deal with first principles. They don’t want to figure out others based on their actual experiences with them.
Knowing that this is how most people ‘process’ others, it’s no surprise that too many of us are scared stiff about our reputation. We worry about making the right impression or saying and doing the right things at the right time. This is the worst form of worrying about your ‘possessions.’
If you feel that your possessions have reached the point where you are possessed by them and this has thrown your life off-balanced, I’ve got some great news for you. The concept of wholeness can get your life back on track. By understanding how different aspects make you uniquely you, you can start taking control over your life.
You can use the realization that maybe the huge credit card bill statements at the end of the month is a warning sign that can wake you up. Click here to how you can retake control of your life. Your possessions do not necessarily have to possess you.
How to Achieve Emotional Wholeness Using Practical Steps
If you are at a campsite and if you want your barbecue pit to heat up very quickly, the last thing you’d probably think of doing is to pump a huge amount of flammable liquid on it. If you’re a responsible camper and know your way around your barbecue pit, you would layer on twigs and other twigs and branches and put logs on top. That’s how you manage the fire.
Unfortunately, such long-term thinking is not rewarded by the modern world. We want the best the world has to offer right here, right now. That’s how much of a rush we’re in, not surprisingly, we believe that the more we have, the more valuable our lives become.
We have completely erased the wall between value and price. We size each other up based on how much stuff or rights to stuff we have. We create this mental hierarchy and people with the most things are at the top. In the west, a significant amount of people kill themselves every single year. (Source)
This is quite shocking because they are all provided for, they are not starving in the streets, and they have more than enough to eat. People are eating and living better now than ever in history, yet people are still killing themselves. This is not only about official suicides. There are other ways to measure suicide.
Other ways people kill themselves are through drunk driving, drug abuse, and accidental overdose. The more stuff you have, doesn’t necessarily mean the more you’ve become. These are two totally different things and two totally different tracts. Sadly, modern society teaches us that they are one and the same.
You are worth more than the sum of the stuff that you consume. You are worth more than the status people accord you.
The more they eat, the hungrier they become. The more they drink, the thirstier they become. The more money they have, the poorer they feel. This applies across the board. Thankfully, there is a way out
The Possible Solution: You Might Want to Rediscover the Concept of Wholeness
What is the way out? Well, instead of more, more, more; why not focus on less, less, less. Learn to let go. Focus on what you already have and learn to love what you already possess instead of beating yourself up desiring stuff you don’t currently have. The old Zen Buddhist Maxim quote “less is more”, is more relevant now than ever, at least to the west.
If you believe that your life is missing something or you’re living an empty life, you might want to rediscover the concept of emotional wholeness. You are more than just a consumption machine. You are more than just a demographic statistic that is supposed to be marketed to. You are more than your ability to make money. You are more than the status people accord you.
By looking at yourself as a self-enclosed whole organism with its own sense, own desire for purpose and meaning, your life and your perception of life starts to change. To get the inside scoop on an alternative path to personal meaning & reality, click here
What’s The Big Deal With Emotional Wholeness, Anyway?
Have you ever sat down and just chilled out for a whole day? I’m not talking about playing a video game or watching stuff on Youtube, but just completely chilling out: possibly outdoors checking out some natural landscape or natural features, sitting down on a bench, watching the sunset. Have you ever done that?
If you had, and you’re completely honest with yourself, don’t be surprised if you come to the conclusion that there’s something off your life, something doesn’t feel right. You can’t quite point what it is but you think that there’s something missing.
You may be doing
- well enough at work,
- bills are getting paid,
- your mortgage is covered month after month,
- the kids are doing well enough from school,
- you can buy whatever you want,
- your debts are manageable,
- you rarely freak out when you get your credit card balance at the end of the month, but regardless of these, something seems missing.
You might want to consider emotional wholeness. You have to understand that the sense of contentment is an art. A lot of people think that contentment is some sort of product that can be bought. When we buy stuff that’s worth a lot of money, that item is more valuable. If you are able to afford something that other people desire, you must be important enough.
We got so caught up in the outer indicators of value that we have lost sight of value itself. We are so caught up in buying contentment through getting more and more stuff that we confused value with the price; possessions with being. Not surprisingly, many of us find ourselves in a situation where the more we buy, the less complete we feel. (Source)
It’s not supposed to work this way.
- Wholeness enables you to occupy the moment.
- There’s no need to explain;
- there’s no need to be somebody that you’re not;
- there’s no need to make excuses;
- there’s nothing to worry about.
- The past is the past, the future is yet to happen
- here you are, at the moment, enjoying it and being in it.
The problem is we have lost sight of the concept of wholeness, we are so bombarded with so many different signals that throw us off the whole concept of wholeness. We’ve reached the point where most of us have forgotten the whole idea of wholeness.
Maybe, if we buy enough stuff, contentment and wholeness will come in. Maybe if we live in a big enough place, this will kick in. Again, this is just in the back section of your mind. this is real. This is the kind of emotional treadmill we find ourselves in. The more we buy, the more we consume, the more we burn out.
Invest in the way out
Instead of running yourself ragged on a treadmill, has it occurred to you that maybe, you can make things easier on yourself by just getting off the treadmill? Yes, you’re supposed to level up until you break through and get the prize. That’s how it’s marketed, at least.
Instead of running yourself ragged on a treadmill, you might want to reconsider the power of stopping and the power of the infinite now. Click here to learn more about emotional wholeness and how you can achieve it using practical steps.
You May Be In Trouble If You Haven’t Taken A Vacation Or A Long Weekend In A Long Time
Just as people can continuously drive over a bridge that’s showing many small cracks, people can continue to live their lives even though there are signs of an emotional, psychological and spiritual breakdown in the works. It is unfortunate that people only sit up and pay attention when it’s too late.
We have the same attitude when it comes to our mental, emotional and psychological well-being. These are all wrapped together, flow together, inform each other and fall under the general heading of personal spirituality. It is too bad because the signs are everywhere, you just need to open your eyes to them. (Source)
Believe it or not, the most common sign that your life may be off balance in a very significant and fundamental way involves your vacation time. If you haven’t taken a vacation or even opted for a long weekend since forever, you might want to slow down and ask yourself, “Why don’t I take a vacation? Is it because I can’t afford it?”
If you’re honest with yourself, there’s very little you cannot afford. Thanks to credit cards, and thanks to the concept of saving, you can pretty much afford a significant chunk of what life has to offer. So it’s not that. The real issue is you are unwilling to spend something other than money. I’m talking about your time.
You may be caught up in this emotional treadmill of aiming to get more and more stuff, to get higher and higher in a hierarchy that you lose sight of the big picture. What’s the point of gaining everything when you lose everything in the end?
That’s precisely what’s happening when you’re on that treadmill. You keep saying to yourself, “Well, I’m not taking a vacation now because I’m getting ready for that ultimate vacation, I’m getting ready for early retirement, I’m building stuff, and I’m sacrificing for a much better life.” This is a serious sign.
Your life is completely off-balance because most people look forward to vacations, most people prize vacations and the fact that you won’t even take long weekends speaks volumes to how much your values have gone off track. You might want to step back and look at this as a dangerous sign.
Ignore that signal, and you only have yourself to blame when significant areas of your life truly cave in. You may be in serious trouble. To see how you can take practical steps, to regain control over the important areas of your life, click here.
You have to remember that your personal happiness is your responsibility. You cannot ignore it. You have to always take ownership of it and incorporate it into your daily decisions. Click here to find out how.
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