Stop Negative Thoughts and Believe You Are Capable
Believing in your own strengths and capabilities is vital for developing and supporting your personal power. Learning to feel more capable in your life can help you develop the mindset, skills, and knowledge you need to achieve your goals and do whatever you set your mind toward.
What are the Sources of Your Self-Belief?
Learning to believe in yourself and your abilities is also known as self-efficacy. When you believe that what you do will work out as you want, you have more motivation and energy to take action and move forward.
#1. The Concept of Self Efficacy
Self-efficacy also helps you feel like you are more capable of solving problems and overcoming challenges, which are a big part of maintaining forward momentum when seeking a goal. (Source)
Several sources feed your sense of self-efficacy. The first is mastery, which includes your belief that you have what it takes to accomplish a task. Mastery comes from your past experiences of success and accomplishment.
You can improve your mastery by regularly reminding yourself of your past accomplishments as well as your positive efforts toward learning new things. Rewarding yourself is also important.
Self-efficacy also comes from the modeling of others. We do not have to learn everything in our lives by trial-and-error. If we did, it would take forever to learn a new skill. Instead, we can watch others who are successful and learn from them. Modeling is also a wonderful way to see skills you already have applied in new settings.
#2. Observational Learning and Modeling Others
Paying attention to others in your life and how they use their knowledge and skills can increase your learning from modeling. Also, observe and learn from others who are trying to carry out similar goals to you. If they can do it, so can you.
We also develop our sense of capability from the advice of trusted others. When someone you trust tells you that you are capable, you are more likely to believe that you can accomplish your goal.
Being receptive to the advice and suggestions of others whom you respect and admire will help you gain the most from mentoring. Find a mentor you trust and learn from their insights into your ability and knowledge to continue your development. (Source)
#3. How Feelings Influence Thoughts
Finally, your mood affects your beliefs in your own capabilities. When you receive feedback, whether emotionally or physically, from performing something, this shapes your mood and how you judge yourself.
When your mood is positive, you feel more positive about your abilities. This is why becoming more emotionally intelligent is important, because controlling your emotions is vital to creating the mood necessary to enhance your self-efficacy. (Source)
How to Feel More Self-Efficacious
#1. Learn from Others
You not only learn from your own experiences but from watching others. If you want to enhance your belief in your own capabilities, start paying closer attention to others in your world who are good at what they do. If you want to learn a specific skill, pay attention to how others perform this same task.
Asking others in your life who have carried out similar goals for advice is also a great way to learn about their process or how they met their aim. You can learn by watching videos online or by reading stories of others’ successes, as well.
#2. Focus on Progress
When you are trying to feel more capable, focus on the incremental progress you will need to make to master that skill. Small goals are measurable and add to your sense of capability, so recognize and reward yourself for making progress and getting closer to your final target.
Looking back on your past accomplishments is a terrific way to feel more capable now. When you feel like you cannot do something new, it is helpful to look back to the past for examples of times when you realized similar goals, used like skills, or had to start from scratch. These past efforts will help you feel more capable in the present.
Learning to feel more capable will boost your confidence and empower you to take control of your life. Your personal power is grounded in how capable you feel, so becoming more self-efficacious will be vital to developing your personal power over time.
Get Rid of Negativity in Your Life and Within Yourself
Giving in to negative energy and thoughts, whether from yourself or from others, is never a good idea. It robs you of your personal power, consuming you with the toxic emotions of negative thoughts. You can enhance your personal power by learning to rid your life of the negativity around you, both from others and within yourself. (Source)
We are all exposed to negativity in life. Gossip, unhealthy relationships, emotional interactions, and even your own inner critical voice are always there, ready to give you a healthy dose of negativity. In situations where you have a lot of negativity coming at you, it is essential to set up a boundary for yourself and say “no.” Learning how to stop this negative flow from assaulting you will protect you from the downward spiral that these interactions often bring.
To do this, you must change your intentions and perspectives during emotional or negative exchanges, which can help feel more powerful. Whether it is shutting down the morale buster at work, quieting your own self-criticism, or silencing the crass neighbor who always puts you on edge, learning to engage your personal power and release the negativity of the world while help you live with more happiness and peace.
How to Stop Negative Thoughts and Avoid Negativity
Channeling your personal power is a terrific way to rid yourself and your life from the negative forces that are trying to steal your happiness. Here are just a few ways to remove these naysayers from your sphere and start to reclaim your personal power. (Source)
#1. Start With You
Many times, we are much more aware of the negativity from other people, but we fail to acknowledge how we are allowing that negativity to affect us. Start by examining how you allow yourself to react to the negativity of others.
Become accountable for your emotions as well as your behaviors. Are you guilty of gossiping about others? Do you engage in the negative office banter you supposedly hate? Start to look at your own behaviors first, if you want to truly cut negativity in your life.
You should also examine how you respond to others’ negativity. You have the power to control your emotions and reactions to what others say and do, but are you exercising this power? Do you walk away from negative conversations or tell others your feelings on the matter? How often do you become emotionally charged because of someone else?
#2. Become the Positive Force
If you want others to be more positive, you have to surround them with positivity. Instead of giving in to the negative energy of others, be the positive energy that boosts them up and guides them from the darkness. Find something positive to say.
Model healthy boundaries for others by letting them know you do not want to talk negatively about others. Steer conversations toward more productive and positive outcomes when possible. Lead by example.
#3. Refocus to Stop Negative Thoughts
When you spend time with negative people, it can change how you think. After interactions with negative people, look at how your thoughts are altered. Are you more worried, anxious, or negative now than before? Make a conscious choice to spend less mental energy on these interactions and move forward with more intentional positivity, for your own sake.
#4. Stop Negative Thoughts and Breathe
One way to get through negative interactions is to just breathe and remember, this is not about you, this does not affect you, and you are not going to allow it to change your positive mood. Deep breaths help to calm your mind, which can help you think more clearly about the best way to get out of the situation. Quieting your body and mind is the perfect way to engage your power and listen to your heart.
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